Yes! No. Maybe? Sexual Assault

By: Jay Dee, MPH

A few days ago I created a reel on IG about consent. More specifically how waking someone up to oral sex is sexual assault! Take a look here.

A lot of conversation took place. I polled my audience and 72% prefer permission while 28% welcomed being awaken and feel as though it is not that deep to deem this act as sexual assault.

I get it! When you’re in a relationship realistically you’re not saying to your partner, “May I give you head tonight?” But there is a language that is spoken to indicate you want sex and that sex will be given.  Regardless if you agree with sexual consent or not, the biggest takeaway is that simple things like waking someone up to oral sex can definitely lead to prosecution.

Consent:

1. Freely given.

2. Can be taking back at any time (even in the middle of an sexual act).

3. “Yes” to this and “No” to that!

4. Should be enthusiastic and free of pressure!

5. Must have all the information ( I want to do x, y, and z with a possibility of a and b).

Sex is never that deep to end up on the other side of the law. Ask for consent!

p.s In Table For One Journal journal how you ask for sex and how you're typically asked for sex! Then answer the following question: Have you ever been pressured into sex or had sex when you did not want to in hopes to keep the peace?

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator