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Monogamy: the act of being in an exclusive relationship with one person. 

Many people believe relationships outside of monogamy indicates something is wrong with one or all participating parties. For example, if a woman is in a polyamorous relationship, it is assumed she lacks self-love and that she may be insecure. This is not true! More women initiate this type of relationship than you know. 

Polyamory gets confused with Polygamy. Polyamory is when there is one exclusive couple and one or both have an additional relationship. This can be arranged however the couple see fits. Polygamy on the other hand is illegal in the United States. In this relationship, one man has multiple wives. The purpose of this is legacy and lineage! Polyamory relationships can be highly beneficial financially and parentally! 

Now you do have some couples who have an open relationship. This is when an exclusive couple have sex with other people solo or together. Usually, the additional parties do not have much of an emotional relationship. It's mostly sexual! Again, this can be arranged to the couple's liking. In all scenarios, transparency and consent is provided. 

These types of relationships are called Ethical Non-Monogamy. Heavy on ethics! Everyone does not align with these arrangements and that's ok. But let me open your mind for one second. If you are in an exclusive relationship that includes frequent infidelity, maybe you should explore an open relationship with your partner. It doesn't make sense for you two to continue experiencing the emotional hardship that comes with cheating.

You two are committed for a while, one or both of you eventually steps out, you're caught, you argue, break up for 30 minutes, promise to never do it again, work overtime for forgiveness then the cycle continues. 

The best part about your relationship is that it’s yours! Do as you please. You do not have to practice monogamy especially if the scenario provided is yours! Nor do you have to make an announcement to people about your relationship’s status. 

If you're in an exclusive relationship, think about the reality of your current situation. You may or may not want to explore ethical, non-monogamy! Either way, understand that the only thing constant is change. So, check in with your partner and discuss what you two have and what you want.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator