Attraction

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Recently my homeboy asked me, "Do you think you attract the same men?"

The conversation began....

I always hear people say similar things to his question. I disagree that people "attract" those with specific character traits they dislike. People are initially attracted to the physical makeup, maybe conversation. It is when you are getting to know that person you learn those character traits exist.

Walk with me for a minute. It's not that we attract "bullshit," we overlook "bullshit." In a perfect world, if people approached us with labels on their forehead, "liar" "manipulator" "scammer," we probably wouldn't give them a chance. But unfortunately, life is not that easy!

A shooter gon' shoot! Just like we don't know people's negative character traits at "hello," people also don't know your positive character traits. So no pooh, you do not attract broken people because you are a healer. You think you can fix people or love people to "health" so once you realize said person is "broken," instead of moving on, you stay, and endure all out of "love" or hopes of a future! Stop.

Once you realize you're tired of going through the same thing (i.e.,heart break, being used, not being chosen)  you'll stop lowering your standards, staying in relationships past its expiration date, and seeing the "good" in people. Eventually you'll begin to accept the reality of people instead of your delusion, and end the relationship early on. 

So it's not about attracting the same negative character traits, it's about ignoring bullshit!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator