Why I Choose Serial Dating Over Being Someone’s Girlfriend

By: Jay Dee, MPH

You Know What I Want This Season?

Bomb sex.

Amazing dates.

Intelligent conversations.

All from an attractive, generous, honest man!

My Rule About Being a Girlfriend

Years ago, I made a decision: I would no longer play the role of girlfriend. During a messy past relationship, I promised myself I wouldn’t give my time, energy, or heart to someone who didn’t align with my values.

Did I stick to it? Not always. I gave in once, became a girlfriend again…eye roll.

This time? I’m standing firm.

Why I Love Serial Dating

I genuinely enjoy dating. The thrill of meeting new people, experiencing variety, and owning my autonomy feels adventurous, powerful—even liberating. Serial dating—intentionally connecting with multiple people—amplifies my energy and sharpens my perspective.

Why give years of my life to one person, hoping for a ring, when I can explore who I truly align with—without blind loyalty to a maybe?

Commitment ≠ Character

Some might ask: “What about cheating? What if he can’t commit?”

Cheaters get married every day! Marriage is not proof of character.

To know if someone is worth your time, observe:

• How they handle stress and success

• Their friendships and family dynamics

• Whether they follow through on promises

• How they treat people when no one is watching

  
  

These insights come from experience and intentional dating, not blind exclusivity.

Dating Multiple People = Being Careful

Dating multiple men doesn’t mean you’re careless. It means you’re discerning, gathering data, and choosing—not settling.

Serial dating helps you:

• Recognize patterns, red flags, and green lights

• Compare how you feel, how you’re treated, and what excites you

• Gain clarity you can’t get from focusing on one person too early

  
  

Exclusive dating too soon can create tunnel vision. You invest deeply before truly knowing alignment, then five years later, wonder what happened to your standards and time.

Serial Dating Is Intentional

Serial dating isn’t about avoiding commitment. It’s about learning, evolving, and not forcing forever with someone who doesn’t deserve it.

Dating has structure, agreements, and boundaries. It’s a discovery tool. It can lead to engagement or marriage—but it doesn’t have to. Dating is not one-size-fits-all. Dating is whatever you define it to be.

So, What Kind of Dater Are You?

Serial (multiple) or exclusive (one)?And most importantly—why?

Because “I want to” is reason enough.

Document your dating journey in Table For One.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator