Sexual Discipline: Can Too Many Partners Keep You From Finding Love?
- thevaginaliberator
- Sep 21
- 2 min read
Sexual Discipline: Too Many Partners Too Fast—Are You Really Looking for Love?
In today’s sex-positive world, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality. Being single means you have the autonomy to enjoy multiple sexual partners, as often as you like, with whomever you like, as long as it’s safe and consensual. But here’s the catch: if you claim you want love and marriage, yet your sex life looks like a revolving door, it may be time to ask some hard questions.
What Is Sexual Discipline? Sexual discipline isn’t about shaming or forcing abstinence. It’s about being intentional with your body and your desires. It’s knowing when you’re pursuing genuine connection versus when you’re chasing a temporary high. Sleeping with multiple partners in a short period of time can sometimes mask deeper issues—loneliness, emotional avoidance, or even using sex as a substitute for intimacy. What exactly are you looking for––connection, validation, or just the adrenaline rush of new flesh? Because here’s the truth: no amount of bodies in your bed will fill a void that lives in your heart.
Are You Searching for Love in the Wrong Places? When someone always has a new partner in their bed, it raises questions. Are they looking for real companionship but only know to search between the sheets? Are they fighting parts of their sexuality they haven’t accepted? Or are they simply mistaking sex for love? If the ultimate goal is marriage or a long-term relationship, then constantly rotating partners can sabotage that dream.
Sexual Freedom vs. Sexual Chaos Yes, sexual freedom is empowering. But without discipline, freedom can turn into chaos. Too many sexual partners too fast can leave you unfulfilled, drained, and stuck in cycles that block genuine love. True intimacy requires more than orgasms—it requires patience, focus, and the self-control to create space for something real.
The Bottom Line There’s nothing wrong with enjoying sex. But if love and marriage are what you truly want, your sex life should reflect that. Sexual discipline doesn’t limit your pleasure—it redirects it toward building the relationship you claim to desire. Because at the end of the day, the question isn’t “Do I have too many partners?” but “Am I disciplined enough to work towards the love I deserve?”
Until Next Time,
The Vagina Liberator
That’s exactly what it’s all about
From what I’ve learned from my own personal experiences, sexual discipline and not collecting bodies, is extremely important. Every sexual experience is spiritual exchange. We take on a part of every person we have sex with and they stay with us. And when we get into a relationship, we bring all of our past sexual partners with us and that’s called spiritual baggage. The more spiritual baggage we carry, the more destructive we are to the person we’re involved with. The higher the body count, the lesser the change of connecting with someone and having a HEALTHY long lasting relationship. The solution…prayer and fasting, while denouncing all ungodly soul ties we’ve entered into with those from our past. And confessing…
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