Pegging 101: Exploring Pleasure, Power, and Trust in the Bedroom

By: Jay Dee

Pegging: Pleasure, Power, and Privacy

Pegging is when a woman uses a strap-on or dildo to penetrate a man’s anus. This can mean full penetration or just teasing with the tip. While it might feel taboo to some, pegging is simply another form of sexual exploration—and when both partners are open to it, it can be intimate, exciting, and deeply satisfying.

From an anatomical standpoint, the male prostate—located near the rectum—plays a big role in pleasure. This small gland helps with ejaculation and, when stimulated, can deliver intense sensations. That’s why some men enjoy fingers, toys, or light pressure in that area. Popular culture has even joked about it for years—terms like “salad tossing” or “eating booty” are proof that anal play isn’t new.

But pegging isn’t just about male pleasure—it can also be a thrill for women. Stepping into a dominant role can be a major turn-on. Dominance is a kink for many, and role reversal in the bedroom can boost confidence, deepen trust, and add a playful edge to intimacy. TikTok creator @tallandfunny1982 shared her enjoyment of pegging a past partner, and the comments were full of women saying they’d had similar experiences—or highly interested. Watch here.

For men, requesting pegging can feel risky. Questions pop up: Will she think I’m gay? Will I end up as 'T' in the group chat? That’s where trust comes in. Your partner has to feel confident your bedroom is a judgment-free zone, where secrets stay private unless both of you agree to share.

When bringing it up, do it outside the bedroom in a relaxed setting—maybe over snacks or while doing something casual together. Use the “sandwich” method: start with what you love about your sex life (bread), bring up your pegging curiosity and why it excites you (filling), then close with more positives about your connection (bread again).

If you try pegging, keep these tips in mind:

• Use water-based lube with silicone toys to protect the material.

• Go slow, communicate, and check in often.

• Practice aftercare—snuggle, talk, or just share a moment to come down together.

  
  

Bottom line: People often judge what they don’t understand. Pegging is about mutual pleasure, consent, and connection. If it excites you both, there’s no reason not to explore—it’s your bedroom, your rules.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator