The Change: Menopause

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Aging, Hormones, and Sex: What You Need to Know

We’re getting older—and so are our eggs. That means menopause may be here now, or it’s waiting just around the corner. Either way, it’s important to understand what that means for your body and your sex life.

Menopause is a natural biological process that marks the end of menstrual cycles, officially diagnosed after you’ve gone 12 months without a period. During this time, the ovaries stop releasing eggs and hormone levels—particularly estrogen and progesterone—significantly decline. These changes can have a direct impact on libido, vaginal lubrication, and overall sexual satisfaction.

According to the Mayo Clinic, menopause can occur anywhere between ages 40 and 58, with the average age being 51. Learn more here.

Now, raise your hand if you're ready to stop having sex.

Exactly.

Just because your hormones are shifting doesn’t mean your sex life has to come to a halt. Here are a few evidence-based ways to support your sexual wellness through menopause and beyond:

1. Have more sex: Yes, really. Regular sexual activity increases blood flow to the vagina, which can help promote natural lubrication and maintain vaginal elasticity.

2. Talk to your partner: Be honest about the changes you're experiencing. Then, clearly communicate what currently turns you on. Arousal may shift during this time, so don’t be afraid to redefine pleasure with your partner.

3. Eat for your hormones: Support your body with foods that encourage hormone balance and blood flow:

• Oysters (support testosterone levels)

• Salmon (rich in omega-3s)

• Lean proteins like chicken and beef

• Nuts and seeds

• Apples (linked to vaginal lubrication support)

  
  

4. Get your heart rate up: Cardio promotes blood circulation—including to the pelvic area—and helps stabilize mood, which is often impacted by hormonal fluctuations.

5. Stay hydrated: The vaginal glands, like the rest of your body, need adequate hydration to function properly. Aim for plenty of water and incorporate water-rich fruits to stay replenished.

This is a transition, not a dead end. During this stage, consider documenting your physical and emotional changes in your Table For One Journal. This gives you a clear record to share with your provider, helping them recommend the best treatment options for your unique body and needs.

Menopause may mark the end of one phase, but it can also be the beginning of deeper self-awareness, richer intimacy, and a redefined approach to pleasure.

If you’re interested in reading more, click here and here!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator