Intimacy

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Intimacy for me has been sleeping together. Not sex, just actually going to sleep. These past few weeks, life has been busy as hell but also redundant. Wake up. Exercise. Work. Shower. Sleep. Repeat. I’m not in the mood for anything! I can barely stay awake for a movie. But in all transparency, my Dr. prescribed an oral antibiotic for my acne; Minocycline.

This medication drained me. I battled with dizziness and nausea for 2 weeks! The only thing that brought me comfort was sleep. Needless to say, I took myself off! Additionally, I am so busy with renovating and decorating my home. This has my full attention! Now that I have started, what I want next is keeping me up at night!

All medicine aside, what do you do when you don’t have anything to give your partner?

Here’s what I did and am doing in real time:

1.     Communicated why energy is depleted.

How can we expect people to understand what they do not know!?

2.     Found a solution to my issue.

In this case, discontinuing the medicine. Hopefully the next treatment is received well. As far as renovations, that is finally done!

3.     Scheduled time for us to reset.

We are having a much needed movie night on Friday! Ok..honestly...my new TV stand just arrived. It was scheduled for delivery on Friday but Santa came early! Long story short, I want him to build it…LOL…but that’s still quality time!

Changing my space has been so annoying! Ordering things, waiting for its arrival, people traveling in and out of your home….but the reward of it all (thank you Jesus)….However, I’m excited for it to be mostly done! Currently, I am in the décor phase! I have a while but the major things are done. THANK YOU GOD! Quick tip I learned…well my mom warned me…NEVER buy sofas based on a trendy color!

I hope in this new season, literally it’s spring, you find new activities that are pleasurable!

Use your journal Table For One to document those changes and how it is boosting your mood.

But if you find yourself like me, not carving out time for your partner, take a step back and schedule a date. Click here for more!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator