Hold The Pussy

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Ever practiced celibacy or abstinence?Let’s break it down clearly so we’re on the same page.

According to Healthline.com, celibacy is a voluntary vow to refrain from sexual activity for an extended period—or even a lifetime. But let’s be real, this isn’t one-size-fits-all. Celibacy has layers. Click here for a break down on celibacy.

Some choose it as a spiritual or religious commitment. Others do it to focus on personal healing, professional growth, or simply to reset. For some, celibacy includes self-pleasure (masturbation); for others, it means no sexual stimulation at all. It’s a deeply personal journey.

So—is celibacy torture or is it righteous?Honestly, sometimes it’s necessary to take a break from partnered sex. Think about it—have you ever felt like sex was dominating your relationship? Or maybe you’ve noticed how intimacy can become a distraction. Deadlines start slipping, creative energy dries up, and even your relationships with family and friends start to feel neglected.

Let’s call it what it is: partnered sex can be a beautiful connection, but it can also become a distraction if not balanced.

Now, the word celibate can sound intimidating—it’s a vow, a commitment, a promise to yourself. But here’s the thing: just like we hold others accountable for breaking promises, we need to hold ourselves accountable, too. Celibacy isn’t for the faint of heart, but it can be incredibly transformative when done with intention.

Not ready for celibacy? No pressure.You can still reclaim control of your body and energy by practicing abstinence instead.

Abstinence doesn’t require a long-term vow. It’s simply choosing to refrain from sex for a temporary period. Whether it’s motivated by personal growth, religious beliefs, or just needing a breather—it’s valid. And it still counts as an act of self-respect.

Whether you choose celibacy or abstinence, let it be purposeful.Don’t just “hold the pussy”—honor her.

You’re in charge of your body. You get to decide what she needs, when, and why.And sometimes, peace and clarity come from simply hitting pause.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator