Control Your Pussy

By Jay Dee, MPH

In 1973, the Supreme Court of the United States protected a woman’s constitutional right to access safe abortion care. Nearly 50 years later, on June 24, 2022, that protection was overturned with the fall of Roe v. Wade. I won’t echo the outrage and disbelief that so many of us have already expressed—those emotions are valid and well-documented. If you’re interested in reading my full response, along with the voices of six other Sexual Health and Pleasure Influencers, [click here].

What I do want to highlight is an often-overlooked reality in these conversations: the dangerous lack of concern for women experiencing ectopic pregnancies.

An ectopic pregnancy occurs when a fertilized egg implants and begins growing outside of the uterus—commonly in the fallopian tubes, but also in the cervix or abdominal cavity. These pregnancies are not viable and, if left untreated, can lead to internal bleeding, organ damage, and even death. Treatment requires termination. There is no way around it. Yet, under vague or extreme anti-abortion legislation, even life-saving care like this can be delayed or denied—putting lives at risk.

While ectopic pregnancies can’t be prevented, unintended pregnancies often can. Now is the time to become deeply familiar with your own reproductive cycle—especially for those with regular periods. Tools like condoms and hormonal birth control remain available, though it’s important to acknowledge that not every woman wants or is able to use them. That choice is valid.

Hormonal birth control works by stopping ovulation (the release of an egg), thickening cervical mucus to block sperm, and thinning the uterine lining to prevent implantation. But if you're not using hormonal contraception, understanding your ovulation cycle can be a powerful alternative.

Ovulation is the release of an egg from the ovary into the fallopian tube, typically lasting 12–24 hours. During this time, your cervix will produce a fluid that resembles raw egg whites—clear, stretchy, and slippery. This fluid helps sperm swim more easily and survive longer (up to 5 days) in the vaginal environment.

Here's how to track it: Starting the day after your period ends, use a clean finger to gently collect cervical fluid from inside the vagina. Touch it between your thumb and forefinger. If it feels tacky or stretches like egg whites, you’re likely ovulating. Check morning and night when you're not aroused, and continue daily until you observe this change.

Once you’ve confirmed ovulation, you can make an informed decision—whether that means embracing intimacy or choosing to abstain during your fertile window.

Reproductive freedom is not just about the right to choose abortion—it’s about the right to understand, manage, and protect your body in ways that align with your values and well-being.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator