What Does “Dickmatized” Mean? How Pleasure Can Cloud Judgment

By: Jay Dee, MPH

What Does “Dickmatized” Mean?

“Dickmatized” is when someone—man or woman—is blinded by good dick. Pleasure feels incredible, hormones surge, and suddenly red flags fade into the background.

Your Brain on Good Sex

Let’s speak scientifically for a second. During sex and masturbation, your body is releasing a few hormones:

• Dopamine: Pleasure and reward

• Oxytocin: Bonding and closeness

• Endorphins: Happiness and stress relief

• Prolactin: Satisfaction

These hormones are released at a higher rate and they all promote a feeling of satisfaction, love, relaxation, bonding, pleasure…all the good feels!  But isn’t this a good thing? Not necessarily because eventually, you have to come down from that “high.”

The catch: This “high” can temporarily distort your perception of a partner. Just because it feels good doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

Pleasure Doesn’t Fix Problems

Even if you double back for sex, remember: good dick doesn’t erase disrespect, poor communication, or toxic behavior.

Good sex cannot:

• Make someone accountable

• Improve communication

• Stop gaslighting

• Transform character

  
  

Bold truth: Pleasure is temporary. Clarity is permanent.

How to Stay Grounded

• Compartmentalize sex and challenges. Enjoy the moment, practice aftercare, then return to your life.

• Recognize red flags. Don’t let orgasms justify bad behavior.

• Understand sex is pleasure, not a fix. The body can enjoy; the mind must decide.

Good dick is not enough to sustain or prolong a relationship. Good dick won’t make the communication better. Good dick won’t hold that person accountable for their wrongdoings! Good dick won’t make them stop gaslighting you. Good dick will only make you feel good in that moment. But that moment won’t last forever so now what? I’ll tell you….STAND UP!!

“Good sex feels amazing…but it doesn’t change who they are.”

Key Takeaway

Being dickmatized is real. Hormones may trick you, but your boundaries matter more. Stand up. Protect your standards. Enjoy pleasure—but never let it rewrite reality.

Just make sure you understand that sex is pleasurable activity and not a characteristic changer!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator

FAQs About Being Dickmatized

Q: What does “dickmatized” mean?

A: Being “dickmatized” is when someone is temporarily blinded by amazing sex, causing them to overlook red flags or unhealthy behavior.

Q: Why does being dickmatized happen?

A: Hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, endorphins, and prolactin surge during sex, creating pleasure, bonding, and happiness that can distort judgment.

Q: Can good sex fix relationship problems?

A: No. Pleasure cannot make someone accountable, improve communication, or change toxic behavior.

Q: How can I stay grounded if I’m dickmatized?

A: Compartmentalize sex from relationship challenges, recognize red flags, and remember that pleasure is temporary but clarity is permanent.

Q: Is being dickmatized harmful?

A: It’s not inherently harmful, but ignoring boundaries or red flags can lead to staying in unhealthy situations longer than you should.