Reclaiming Sensuality: How to Rediscover Your Confidence and Pleasure

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Reclaiming Your Sensuality: How to Feel Sexy, Confident, and Connected to Your Body Again

A true bad bitch isn’t defined by who desires her—she’s defined by how deeply she cares for herself. Emotionally. Mentally. Physically. Sensually.Not because a partner is doing it for her (although reciprocity matters), but because she chooses herself every single day.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected from your body, your desire, or your confidence, you’re not broken. You’re human. And you’re likely in a new season of yourself.

Reclaiming Sensuality Is a Seasoned Act of Self-Care

This summer has been a personal reset for me—a season of reclaiming my sensuality and redefining what pleasure looks like now, not who I used to be.

One morning, I woke up and didn’t recognize myself. My sexiness felt distant. My confidence was dimmed.

So I stripped everything away—literally and figuratively.

Off came the wig.The makeup.The clothes.

I sat naked with myself, in the discomfort of transition. Because the truth is: we are not the same woman all year long. Our bodies, desires, and confidence shift just like the seasons. And fighting that only creates more disconnect.

How Self-Pleasure Helps You Reconnect With Your Body

That’s when I reached for my Table For One self-pleasure workbook—and it became my anchor.

Self-pleasure isn’t just about orgasm. It’s about self-awareness. It teaches you how your body responds, what calms you, what excites you, and what you need to feel grounded again.

Here’s what I’ve rediscovered about myself through intentional self-connection:

• I feel lighter when my meals are simple—too much food weighs me down physically and energetically

• My favorite look right now is pulled-back hair, bare skin, and hoop earrings

• Long nails look cute, but short soft-pink nails match my current softness

• French tip toes will always have me in a chokehold

• Undergarments? Optional. Freedom first

• Flowy dresses and sets over jeans—comfort is sensual

• Vaseline is undefeated for skin intimacy

• I’m exploring a new purple Louis Vuitton scent… still deciding if it’s the one

  
  

Sensuality isn’t about trends. It’s about alignment.

Sexual Confidence Starts With Using Your Voice

Let’s talk about intimacy—because this is where many women disconnect from themselves.

I now know what I want during foreplay, and more importantly, I say it.

Start with her. Touch her. Learn her.

Then go deeper with intention—as if her pleasure is the purpose. Because it is.

Reclaiming sexual confidence means understanding that your pleasure is not a bonus—it’s the foundation. I used to hesitate to speak up. Now I lead with my needs. If you want the ocean, act like it. Think BIG.

What Reclaiming Sensuality Actually Means

Reclaiming your sensuality is not about being naked all the time or having sex nonstop. It’s about:

• Feeling at home in your body

• Understanding what makes you feel good right now

• Giving yourself permission to evolve

• Letting pleasure be part of your wellness routine

  
  

If you’ve been feeling off, numb, or disconnected, ask yourself:

• What do I need to feel good in my body again?

• What does pleasure mean to me in this season?

• Where have I been ignoring myself?

  
  

Your answers are your roadmap.

You don’t need to wait until you lose weight, heal more, or become someone else.You deserve to feel sexy now.

Choose yourself.Touch yourself with intention.Reconnect with your body.

Your sensuality has been waiting for you.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator