Let Yourself Go

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Dating is tough. We all know it. But the real challenge? Spotting red flags early and walking away—even when they check all your boxes. And what’s even more frustrating? Finally deciding to leave, only for them to beg you to stay.

But sis, don’t confuse manipulation with care.

I can’t tell you why some people choose to be selfish or disingenuous. But I can tell you this: we’ve got to stop saying, “Just let me go!” Because the truth is, they won’t. You’re one of one—and they know it. That’s why it’s up to you to find the dignity and power to leave on your terms.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go—it’s removing someone from your daily life. But ask yourself:Which is harder?Staying, hoping things will magically get better…—or—Leaving, and knowing for certain that they eventually will?

Both paths are hard. But only one leads to peace. Always choose you first.Be selfish about your healing and your happiness—because trust me, people will always prioritize their desires over your well-being. So why are you holding back?

Dating can be tricky. You want to believe people are who they say they are. But when they show you they’re not—believe them, and bounce.The gifts? Don’t matter.The connection? Doesn’t matter.Their reasons for wanting you? Still don’t matter.Because if it all mattered the way they claim it does, you wouldn’t be left feeling confused and disappointed most of the time.

So here’s your reminder:Overcome the lies. Break the cycle. Reclaim your peace.You are not the problem—they are. Of course they don’t want you to leave. I told you already: you’re one of one.But save yourself. Get out.They might miss your presence, but you’ll be too busy missing out on more of their bullshit—and stepping into a better situation.

Feel what you need to feel.Be angry. Be sad. Be disappointed.Grieve what it was and what you wanted it to be. No one can tell you how to process your pain—because only two people know the full truth of your story.

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You deserve love that feels good. Start by giving it to yourself.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator