Shower Sex Tips: What Works, What Doesn’t, and How to Stay Comfortable.

By: Jay Dee, MPH

The Do’s and Don’ts of Pleasurable Shower Sex

Shower sex has the reputation of being steamy, spontaneous, and movie-level sexy—but anyone who’s actually tried it knows the truth: it can be amazing, but it can also be a whole lot of work. In fact, sometimes the juice simply isn’t worth the squeeze. Still, with the right prep, positioning, and expectations, you can turn a slippery situation into a truly intimate experience.

Do: Protect Your Hair With a Cute Shower Cap

If your wash day is sacred, throw on a fun, flirty shower cap. It keeps your hair dry, lets you stay in the moment, and adds a playful vibe without compromising your routine.

Do: Keep the Water Warm—For Both of You

One of the biggest complaints about shower sex is uneven warmth. Make sure the water hits both bodies frequently enough to avoid that cold-shoulder shock. Rotating who stands directly under the stream helps maintain comfort.

Do: Switch Between Facing and Turning Away From the Shower Head

Facing the water is great for warming up, stimulating the chest, or using the stream for clitoral stimulation. Turning away allows better body contact, easier penetration, and prevents water from blasting your face or drying you out.

Do: Prioritize Balance and Safety

Use shower mats, place a hand against the wall, or utilize built-in ledges for support. Shower sex gets slippery fast, and staying stable protects both pleasure and your tailbone.

Do: Keep Towels Within Arm’s Reach

Place towels directly outside the shower for instant warmth and dry-off access when you’re done—or when you decide to relocate the action.

Don’t: Rely on Water as Lube

Water actually washes away natural lubrication. Use a silicone-based lube that won’t dissolve under running water and keeps everything smooth.

Don’t: Force It if It’s Not Working

If it’s uncomfortable, awkward, or just not hitting the way you hoped, call it quits. Shower sex isn’t a requirement for passion. Start foreplay in the shower, build the heat, and then move things to a warmer, safer, more comfortable surface outside.

Don’t: Neglect Communication

Ask what feels good, what doesn’t, and whether your partner needs to change positions or take a moment to warm up. Shower sex takes teamwork.

I'll leave you with this

Shower sex can be fun, sensual, and intimate—but it definitely takes planning and patience to pull off. Whether you’re indulging in it as a full experience or using it as a sizzling lead-up to the main event outside the bathroom, prioritizing comfort, temperature, balance, and communication makes all the difference. Enjoy the steam, keep it safe, and remember: pleasure should never feel like a chore.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator