Masturbation is Demonic

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Unlearning Shame: Why Masturbation Isn’t Demonic, It’s Liberating

Spice from Love and Hip Hop recently appeared on Angela Yee's Lip Service podcast and made a bold claim: she no longer masturbates because she believes it’s demonic.

Naturally, I challenged that mindset in this reel—and let’s just say, the Jamaicans ate me up in the comments!

To be clear: this isn’t about disrespecting anyone’s religion or cultural beliefs. But messages like “masturbation is demonic” are deeply harmful—especially for women. These beliefs aren’t just outdated; they’re often rooted in control, shame, and fear. And they strip women of the ability to fully understand, enjoy, and own their bodies.

That’s exactly why I’m The Vagina Liberator.

I’m here to free women from the toxic idea that their bodies exist solely for someone else’s pleasure. Your body is not something to be "given away"—it’s yours to explore, love, and conquer.

And that’s also why I created the research-based self-pleasure workbook, Table For One. It’s designed to guide women like you—and yes, even women like Spice—through the journey of reclaiming their bodies and unlearning the shame tied to masturbation.

Being raised to believe masturbation is “demonic” or “dirty” teaches girls that their bodies are not their own. It disconnects them from their desires, from pleasure, and from their natural bodily functions.

Table For One includes over 20 curated activities that help you:

• Examine where your beliefs about masturbation come from

• Separate religious or cultural conditioning from your truth

• Process shame, guilt, or confusion around your sexuality

• Reconnect with your sensuality through intentional solo intimacy

  
  

And no—you don’t have to figure it all out in a day. But you do deserve guidance, and this workbook is that soft, powerful tool.

Here’s what body mastery can help you achieve:

• Track your ovulation manually (especially helpful for family planning!)

• Feel confident exploring a variety of menstrual products like cups and discs

• Identify how your body releases tension through orgasm

• Understand and increase natural vaginal lubrication (the wetter, the better!)

• Define intimacy on your own terms, instead of depending on others for validation

  
  

As someone who grew up with the same harmful messages Spice mentioned, I’m telling you—Table For One changed the game for me. It’s more than a journal. It’s a journey. It’s the self-care ritual you didn’t even know you needed.

Stop giving your body away before you’ve mastered it.

Fall in love with your pleasure. Reconnect with your power. Grab your copy of Table For One now and start unlearning the shame.

Click here to begin your journey

Signed with love,

The Vagina Liberator