Good Dick Is Not Enough

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Dickmatizied is a term used to define a woman (or man), who is blinded from the truth due to “good dick”!

Let’s speak scientifically for a second. During sex and masturbation, your body is releasing a few hormones: endorphins, dopamine, oxytocin, prolactin etc. These hormones are released at a higher rate and they all promote a feeling of satisfaction, love, relaxation, bonding, pleasure…all the good feels!  But isn’t this a good thing? Not necessarily because eventually, you have to come down from that “high.” A lot of times, that “high” can cloud your judgement!

At some point you have to learn how to compartmentalize  sex and challenges. Its ok to like or miss parts of someone but that doesn’t mean the relationship needs reconciliation! Even if you decide to double back for sex, enjoy the hell out of that moment, do some aftercare, then put your panties on and go home! Good sex doesn’t erase mistreatment, disrespect, poor communication, all negative habits that separated or put a wedge between you two. Once that “high” return to a normal rate, those issues will still be there until next time.

Good dick is not enough to sustain or prolong a relationship. Good dick won’t make the communication better. Good dick won’t hold that person accountable for their wrongdoings! Good dick won’t make them stop gaslighting you. Good dick will only make you feel good in that moment. But that moment won’t last forever so now what? I’ll tell you….STAND UP!!

Sex is a pleasurable activity. Some connect sex with a deeper bond. It can also be seen as something meaningful to say the least. However, is it viewed the same for everyone? No! And both are ok. Just make sure you understand that sex is pleasurable activity and not a characteristic changer!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator