Be Someone Else

By: Jay Dee, MPH

I’ve got a playful challenge for you: buy yourself a few costumes and step into the world of role-play with your partner. Think of it as sensual theatre—transforming into someone entirely new for the night. It’s fun, freeing, and can elevate your intimate experiences in ways you didn’t expect.

Role-playing isn't just about the costume—it’s about stepping into a new energy. It allows you to escape the routine, drop inhibitions, and explore your sexuality through imagination and performance. For many, it unlocks a sense of confidence and power that may be buried under daily stress or insecurity. For others, it’s simply a chance to play, laugh, and reintroduce adventure into the bedroom.

Here are 5 easy and exciting role-play ideas to try:

1. A colorful wig – It’s simple but effective. Sometimes all it takes is a bold new hair color to make you feel like a whole new woman.

   
   

2. The classic uniforms – Whether it’s a flirty nurse, strict police officer, or sultry teacher, these familiar tropes never go out of style. Lean into it—own your authority or play up your "innocence."

   
   

3. An exotic dancer – Go all out! Grab the floss, lace, stilettos, and stage presence. Think: body oil, soft lighting, and your own version of a seductive strip show. Channel your inner Diamond from The Player’s Club and give a performance that’s unforgettable.

   
   

4. Dress as your partner’s celebrity crush – This one adds a personal twist. Whether it's a famous singer, athlete, or actor—recreate a moment that makes your partner’s jaw drop. Bonus points if you can mimic the voice or attitude too.

   
   

5. Costumes from another era – Whether it’s a ‘70s disco queen, a 1920s flapper, or a futuristic space goddess, playing with time periods can give your intimacy a fresh twist. Different aesthetics can bring out different sides of you.

   
   

The beauty of role-play is that it doesn’t require professional acting—just a willingness to explore. Stay in character, talk differently, move differently—immerse yourself in the fantasy. It might feel silly at first, but that’s the point! It’s about letting go, trying something new, and having fun.

And don’t forget: after your sexy scene, take a moment to reflect. Use your Table for One self-pleasure workbook to write down your favorite moments, how you felt in character, and any fantasies that came up. Role-play might just become your new favorite form of self-expression.

So go ahead—turn your bedroom into a stage. Reignite the thrill. You deserve pleasure that’s playful, bold, and deeply embodied.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator