One Night Stand

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Having sex on the first night is a grown ass activity!

Many women are down to initiate sex for casual hook-ups but they don’t due to a fear of rejection and/or judgement from their male counterparts! Society has trained men to believe women have sex for emotional support. Love of some sort is needed for a woman to allow a man to put the key into her home (wink). I’m here to clarify: that’s bullshit! Sometimes, women want to fuck at "hello," just like men! And that’s ok.

The time a woman choose to have sex with a new beau, does not attest to her character! It actually shows that she’s a woman who knows what she wants. Why are people quick to question a woman’s morality when it comes to her sexual life but not a man’s? If men are known to have an abundance of casual sex, can we conclude that men do not value self? That sounds absolutely silly! Nonetheless, a woman’s character should be judged on her beliefs and values.

Meaning her integrity! The way she handles conflict. Her emotional intelligence, or lack thereof! Judge a woman based upon her honesty, ethics, authenticity, open-mindness, the list can continue! Sex on the first date does not speak to any of the aforementioned. But as I previously stated, sex on the first night is a grown ass activity. A lot of couples engaged in sex on the first night and have had long lasting relationships.

Girl, you do not have to limit your sex life out of fear of rejection. If you want to initiate sex on the first night with the person you're interested in, read the room and go for it.

Unfortunately, all men are not accepting to sexually liberated women.

So to quickly learn his stance without being direct, bring it up in a general conversation. "This girl on titktok told a story about this guy blocking her because they smashed on the first night! How do you feel about that?" Make sure his answer matches what you know about him this early on. Then BOOM make your move and if it's sex, remember the big 2: consent and condoms!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator