Delusional

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is walk away from romance—not from love entirely, but from certain people who just aren’t meant to stay.

It’s tempting to get lost in the “what ifs”... imagining what could be, how it might work out, or the fairytale ending you're hoping for. Trust me, I get it. I love a good daydream too. In fact, delusion can feel like a cozy escape. But at some point, we have to return to reality—and move accordingly.

You meet or reconnect with someone, and after a few cute dates, sweet whispers, and shared laughs, the butterflies take over. You start piecing together a future that hasn’t even begun. That feeling? It's beautiful. But while you’re enjoying it, stay grounded.

Ask yourself: does this person meet the basic standard of being kind, respectful, thoughtful? And more importantly—do they meet your standards? If your answer includes hesitation, confusion, or the need to justify, then the real answer is likely "no."

It’s better to recognize misalignment early than to wake up years later with shared responsibilities and a fractured connection. Compatibility doesn’t have to be complicated—do your conversations flow? Do you laugh easily together? Are you learning from each other and growing closer with ease? That’s the foundation. If those basics feel forced, it’s time to re-evaluate.

Letting go isn’t easy when your heart’s still invested. Wanting companionship is human—we all crave closeness. But never trade your standards for temporary comfort. Stand firm in what you want, need, and deserve. As a dear friend once reminded me: “There’s only one of you, and plenty of them.” (Wink.)

Keep it moving, love.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator