Music During Sex: Why a “Fuck-List” Can Transform Your Sexual Experience

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Music During Sex Changes Everything

As much as we talk about touch, rhythm, and chemistry, music during sex is one of the most underrated pleasure tools available. Sound satisfies one of our most powerful senses—the auditory—and when used intentionally, it can completely transform the sexual experience.

Music sets the mood, helps the body express emotion, and acts as a form of communication when words aren’t needed. It tells your partner how to move, when to slow down, and when to go harder. It creates atmosphere, builds anticipation, and most importantly—it makes sex more fun.

What Is a “Fuck-List”?

A Fuck-List is a curated sex playlist you play on shuffle during intimacy. Most people add love songs or slow jams—and yes, those belong there. But a well-rounded Fuck-List also includes sexually explicit music, high-energy tracks, and songs that tap into confidence, dominance, and desire.

Different songs activate different parts of us. Some make us melt. Some make us grind. Some make us suck dick like rent is due. Balance matters.

Why Music Enhances Sexual Pleasure

Music during sex works because it:

• Stimulates the auditory senses, increasing arousal

• Sets the emotional tone (slow, sensual, aggressive, playful)

• Helps the body express desire without overthinking

• Acts as a communication tool when words fall short

• Encourages rhythm and flow, keeping partners in sync

  
  

Ever noticed how certain songs make you move differently? That’s not accidental. Your body responds instinctively to sound—and sex is better when instinct leads.

Explicit Music Has a Place Too

Have you ever given head while “Throat Baby (Remix)” by BRS Kash featuring DaBaby and City Girls was playing?

Something about sexually explicit rap music removes inhibition. It pushes confidence, aggression, and intention. You go harder. You move with purpose. You stop being polite and start being present.

That’s the power of sound paired with desire.

My Current Top 5 Fuck-List Songs (In Order)

1. “Slow” – Tank ft. J. Valentine

Tank singing, “When you sit it on my face, that’s my type of view…”? Immediate body response. This song is pure surrender.

2. “3Way” – Teyana Taylor

Sexual energy multiplies with this one. Something about it unlocks a different version of me.

3. “Speaking in Tongues” – Toni Braxton

“Talk dirty to me, baby, without talking at all.” Exactly. Let the body do the talking.

4. “Rocket” – Beyoncé

This song demands intensity. Begging. Release. Total immersion.

5. “Curiosity” – Nao

Sexy because it’s expressive. Desire spoken out loud while feeling it fully.

Honorable Mentions

• Softest Place on Earth – Xscape

• Discipline – Janet Jackson

• Work Me Slow – Xscape

• On It – Jazmine Sullivan

• Nothing On – Tank

  
  

The Takeaway

Music during sex isn’t background noise—it’s a pleasure strategy. It enhances intimacy, sharpens connection, and helps both partners stay embodied instead of stuck in their heads.

Whether you’re slow and sensual or explicit and aggressive, your Fuck-List should reflect how you want to feel while being touched.

So tell me—Will you be adding these songs to your Fuck-List?

In the meantime, be sure you are writing in your sex journal, Table For One to update your music selection!

Click here to learn why every woman should have a sex journal!

Until next time,

The Vagina Liberator