Oral Sex: What Women Want!

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Alright bestie, pull up a chair because I’m about to upgrade your entire head game. If you want your woman folded, trembling, and speaking in tongues, you’re going to have to slow down, be deliberate, and treat her like the main event — not a speed challenge.

1. Start Slow: The Warm-Up Matters

Most men rush straight to the top of the clit like it’s the “start” button. No.Take your time. Warm up the entire vulva — the outer and inner labia, the hood, the thighs, everything. Think of it like teasing a secret you already know.

2. Don’t Just Flick — Explore

Give attention to all of her, not just the peak of the clitoris. Lick along the labia like you’re tasting something you don’t want to spill. Kiss it. French kiss it. Be sensual, not mechanical.

And yes — you’re allowed to get sloppy. In fact, wet is good.

3. Be Gentle With the Clit

When you get to the tip of the clit, don’t attack it. Suck softly, lick slowly, and build tension. Think of it like holding a very sensitive button between your lips — you’re waking it up, not strangling it. It's ok to move your mouth up and down and down and up, just find a good pace! Not too fast unless welcomed, and damn sure not too slow!

4. Tongue Penetration? Yes, please!

Slide your tongue inside the vaginal opening. Slow, intentional strokes. Curve your tongue upward inside her, then pull back out and go right back to the clit. Make a good rhythm for yourself....go crazy!

5. Add the Fingers (This Is Where You Become a Threat)

Once she’s warmed up, slide two clean fingers into the vagina and curl them upward. This is the “come here” motion — the G-spot’s best friend!

Do that while your mouth works the clit? Congratulations, you’ve entered demon time!

6. Don’t Forget the Other Hotspots

Lick lower — the perineum, even the booty hole if she’s into it. Soft, slow, experimental. You’re exploring, not rushing. Don't be afraid to rub tip of the clit or finger the vagina while your mouth is doing ass play! Keep the pussy warm and stimulated.

7. Read Her Body Like a Map

Her body will tell you everything:

• Moaning louder

• Legs shaking

• Her hand gripping your head

• Her hips pushing forward

Whatever you’re doing that gets that reaction? STAY RIGHT THERE. And for the life of me, If she's screaming, “Stay right there,” she does not mean “switch it up.” Follow directions; her hands, her hips, her sounds — you’re being guided.

8. Pro Tip Homework

Want better tongue stamina and control? Practice by eating applesauce and jello straight out of the container with no spoon.Your tongue will thank me. She will too (wink)!

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Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator

FAQ: How to Give Mind-Blowing Oral Sex

Q: What’s the key to amazing oral sex?

A: Slow down, be deliberate, and treat her like the main event. Rushing kills the build-up.

Q: How should I start?

A: Warm up the entire vulva — outer and inner labia, clitoral hood, and thighs. Don’t go straight to the clit.

Q: How do I stimulate the clit?

A: Be gentle. Soft sucking, slow licking, and consistent rhythm work best. Think of it as awakening a sensitive button.

Q: Should I use my fingers too?

A: Yes. Once she’s warmed up, insert two fingers and use the “come here” motion for G-spot stimulation while continuing oral on the clit.

Q: What about other erogenous zones?

A: Explore the perineum, anal area (if she likes it), and keep the vulva warm. Combine mouth, fingers, and touch carefully.

Q: How do I know if I’m doing it right?

A: Read her body: moaning, leg shaking, gripping your head, or pushing hips forward are signs to keep going exactly the way you are.

Q: Any pro tips?

A: Build tongue stamina by practicing with applesauce or jello. Focus on rhythm, control, and staying attuned to her reactions.