Masturbate More

By: Jay Dee, MPH

The Real Benefits of Masturbation (And Why You Should Be Doing It More Often, Sis)

Pain relief. Stress reduction. Better sleep. A deeper connection with your body. Learning your erogenous zones—aka your hot spots. Figuring out the exact stimulation that gets you there.

Chillleee… remember when I told y’all to use masturbation as a tool to initiate sex? Well, I never said you couldn’t fake the fantasy while doing it solo!

But here’s the thing: masturbation isn’t just about climax—it’s about confidence, curiosity, and control. When you take time to explore your body, you're not only giving yourself pleasure, you’re building sexual confidence. You learn what feels good, what doesn’t, what turns you on, and what absolutely sends you over the edge. So the next time you’re with a partner? You’re walking in the room like, “Let me show you how I like it.”

Masturbation also lets you play with fantasies you’re not ready—or don’t even want—to explore in real life.

Want to be seduced by a vampire? Tied up in a luxury penthouse? Hooking up with a celebrity crush in the VIP section of your dreams? Baby, go off. Masturbation gives you the freedom to imagine, to indulge, and to explore parts of your sexuality in a safe, shame-free way. There are no rules in your mind. No pressure to perform. Just pure pleasure.

Recently, I went live on IG with the amazing Nikkita Grady, and we got real about masturbation. Positions came up, and I described mine. It ain’t cute, but babyyyy, it gets the job done every single time. Wanna know more? Click here to watch the replay (and prepare to laugh and learn something new).

Fun Fact: I almost never use toys when I’m flying solo. And the position? It never changes. Once I close my eyes and tap into my imagination, it’s a wrap. Suddenly I’m with whomever, doing whatever. The fantasy becomes real, and five minutes later—BOOM. Orgasm. And then? The most elite nap of my life. I wake up refreshed, recharged, and relaxed!

The point? If it works, it works. Stick to your tried-and-true, unless you’re doing a lil’ performance for bae (no judgment—we’ve all put on a show).

5 Tips for a Fire Solo Session:

1. Get Comfortable – Find a position that feels good to you (even if you look absolutely ridiculous)!

2. Tap Into Your Fantasy – Your imagination is your most powerful sex toy. Free, limitless, and deeply personal.

3. Use Lube – Friction is not your friend. You're not a desert, sis. Lube = luxury…use it!

4. Go All the Way – Don’t stop at “meh.” Chase that “YESSS!” until you're gripping sheets and saying your own name.

5. Practice Aftercare – Wipe up, hydrate, throw on your robe, and bask in the afterglow like the sensual goddess you are.

At the end of the day, masturbation isn’t about performance. It’s about pleasure.

Whether you're arching your back like a vixen or curled up like a roly-poly, do what feels good—not what looks good.

Own your orgasm, sis. No shame. No pressure. Just you and your power.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator