Soul Tie Explained: Why Sex Doesn’t Create a True Spiritual Bond

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Soul Tie: Understanding Emotional and Spiritual Connections

A soul tie is often defined as “an intense spiritual connection between two people that results in a mutual learning experience” (Brides.com).

For generations, people have equated soul ties exclusively with sex, believing that every sexual partner leaves a piece of their soul with you.

But is that really true?

The answer: not exactly. Soul ties can happen outside of sexual relationships. Platonic friends, mentors and mentees, mothers and daughters—all can form deep soul ties. These connections are about emotional intimacy, learning, and mutual growth, not sexual activity. Interestingly, most online articles about soul ties target women and Christian audiences.

Many Christian teachings warn against premarital sex, sometimes using “soul tie” as a scare tactic. But as Certified Sex Therapist, De’Andrea Blaylock-Johnson, LCSW, CST explains, “'Soul ties,’ at least in regard to sex, are really attachments in disguise and an over-spiritualization of normal feelings.” Read more here.

Why You Miss Someone After Sex

It’s normal to miss a partner after sex or a relationship. Your body releases a surge of hormones, especially oxytocin—the bonding or “love hormone.” This can make you crave the intimacy, pleasure, and connection you experienced. Thinking about someone or longing for them doesn’t mean your souls are bound—it’s a normal human response.

The Science of Connection

During sex, your body produces oxytocin and dopamine, which enhance emotional bonding temporarily. These hormones explain why breakups or casual encounters can feel intense. Emotional attachment isn’t the same as a permanent soul tie—it’s biology doing its job.

Key Things To Consider:

• Soul ties are not created by sex alone; they can form in platonic, familial, or mentor relationships.

• Missing someone or craving them sexually is normal and hormonally driven.

• Over-spiritualizing sexual feelings can create unnecessary fear or guilt.

• Healthy boundaries and reflection are key to navigating emotional and sexual experiences.

  
  

So, the next time someone tells you sex automatically creates a soul tie, remember: emotional connection matters more than sexual activity. You can love, miss, and even crave someone without being spiritually bound to them.

It is normal to "miss" someone after sex or a relationship; relax!

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator