The Purpose of Sex

By: Jay Dee, MPH

There are a list of reasons why people have sex (I am not the originator of this list). Check it out below:

1.    Love

2.    Reproduction

3.    Monetary gain

4.    Earn luxury items

5.    Establish power over another person

6.    Create a bond (not a damn soul tie)

7.    To rebel

8.    Pleasure

9.    Release tension

10.  Paying off a debt

11.  Expressing affection

12.  Proving identity

I hope your mind is turning. Open this discourse in your group chat AND with your partner (separately of course). Give them this list and each of you place the 12 reasons in order of most important to least. Now be sure you prioritize the list individually, then discuss it once everyone has completed it. Be sure nothing is left off your list.

Explain your number 1, top 3, top 5. Then discuss why the last 3 are not important to you. Talk about the middle group and any difficulties you ran into while choosing a place for one or a few reasons.  

Don’t overthink it. There’s no right or wrong! This is simply a tool to acknowledge your feelings about sex and why you open your legs in the first place. This is nothing to argue about! Learn each other’s thought process.

With your partner, complete this in the living room with a nice cocktail or a glass of wine. Listen to some music. Have a shared favorite snack. Create a vibe! Just talk and laugh, then go have sex! Make the sex good too.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator