Bear Or Man?

By: Jay Dee, MPH

Recently on TikTok there was a trend of women being asked if they would rather be stuck with a man or a bear? Most of the women chose a bear!

Now while it was entertaining and (whispers) true, what I find shocking is the amount of women who rather conceive a child via sperm donor than with a partner!

As much as I would love to share actual statistics, records from fertility clinics are not kept. However, if you google “single women who use sperm donors” a plethora of fertility clinics specifically for single women along with articles of women who are opting single parenthood will populate.

When I was younger I thought this type of parenting was a white woman’s sport. But as an adult, I get it. I also appreciate black women for stripping cultural norms and taking matters into their own hands if motherhood is a deep desire. Now once we flip the coin, I think it is sad that women of all races do not think conceiving with a partner is beneficial, worth their sanity, or feasible. Although stats are unavailable, it is estimated that 440,986 donated sperm was used from 2015-2017. Keep in mind, this number includes single women, couples, and lesbians!

Recently I encountered a black woman who is in her career, 35 years of age, single and is now considering a sperm donor. Her dating experience is like most single, millennial women…trash! It is difficult for women who have a career to encounter a man who is intelligent, has stable income, career driven, conversational, HEALING and have their own address (upside down smiley face). Why would a woman want to conceive with someone who is lacking the aforementioned and unwilling to man THE FUCK UP!?

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator