Strip and re-wire

By: Jay Dee, MPH

A true bad bitch is a woman who takes exquisite care of herself—emotionally, mentally, and physically. Not because a man is doing it for her (and that part matters), but because she is choosing herself daily.

This summer has been a deeply personal journey for me—a season of rediscovering my sensuality and redefining what makes me feel good in my skin.

There was a morning I woke up and didn’t recognize myself. My sexiness felt distant. My confidence, dim. So I stripped everything away—literally and figuratively. Off came the wig, the makeup, the clothes. I sat in my nakedness, in the rawness of confusion and transition. Because truthfully, we aren’t the same every day of the year. Just like the weather shifts, our inner seasons evolve too.

That’s when I reached for my Table for One self-pleasure workbook. It’s been my best friend this summer, helping me tune back in to what makes me feel like me again. Here's what I’ve discovered about my preferences, my body, and what I need to feel my best:

• I feel lighter and more in tune when my meals are simple—too much food weighs me down.

• My favorite look? Pulled-back hair and a fresh face. Give me a ponytail and some hoops, and I’m that girl.

• Long nails? Love the look, but I had to go short with a soft pink polish—it suits my current softness.

• I ditched white polish and returned to my go-to: classic French tips on my toes.

• Undergarments? No thanks.

• Flowy sets and dresses over jeans—comfort and ease are my priority.

• Vaseline has reclaimed its spot on my skin.

• I tried a new scent from Louis Vuitton—it’s purple (can’t remember the name), and while I like it, I’m still deciding if it’s “the one.”

  
  

And now… the intimate part (because we keep it real here). When it comes to foreplay, I know what I want—and I’ve found my voice in saying it. Start with her. Touch her. Learn her. Then go deeper with intention, as if her pleasure is your purpose. Because it is. I used to hesitate in saying what I needed—but now, I lead with it. If you want the ocean, act like it. Think BIG (TikTok girls, you know the vibe)!

Reclaiming your sensuality means rediscovering what moves you, touches you, excites you. It’s not about trends or approval—it’s about you. If you’ve been feeling off or disconnected, maybe it’s time to ask yourself: What do I need to feel good? What does pleasure mean to me right now?

Table for One is a sacred tool for that journey. And if you’re ready, she’s waiting for you.

Until Next Time,

The Vagina Liberator